To Vibe or Not To Vibe

I was inspired to write this post by Dangerous Lilly's rant about abstaining from vibrators and the (lack of) effect on her sensitivity.  Lilly shares her perspective on vibe shaming and the myth of vibrator addiction as someone who has always had difficulty reaching orgasm without vibration.  If you haven't read her piece, go do that now...especially if you or your partner struggle with...
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A Little Love for Lube

Lube: it's slippery, and slick and makes all kinds of solo and partnered pursuits more enjoyable.  It even played a part in the birth of my oldest daughter.  The midwife rubbed her head with it as she was crowning to ease her way into the world.  And amusingly enough, I used silicone lubricant to help fight through a particularly nasty tangle in...
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Rant Break: On Sex Toys “For Couples”

If you've shopped for sex toys, you've probably come across the "for couples" category on one site or another.  The term is often used to refer to vibrators that are designed for hands-free use during penis-in-vagina sex [1. Because apparently all couples involve one penis and one vagina, and no one ever has sex in a group larger than two people].  Think of...
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How Can You Think About Sex At a Time Like This?

The last three months have been some of the hardest of my life.  I've not shared many details publicly, but one of my daughters is facing some significant health challenges.  I've spent many hours driving to hospitals and doctors' appointments, researching treatments, and what seems like an eternity slashing through red tape and bureaucratic bullshit to get her the right help.  After...
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It’s International Fisting Day!

Until last year, I wasn't aware that Fisting Day existed, and I certainly couldn't have told you when it was.  But over the past 365 days, I've learned many things.  I went from merely being curious to actually experiencing fisting for myself.  It's a sensation unlike anything else.  The full feeling, the warmth, the movement... not to mention partner's reaction to...
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Partner Play – Dealing with Dildophobia

While most of my posts are geared toward vagina/clitoris owners, this one is directed  more toward their penis-possessing partners. [1. Try saying THAT three times fast...] You see, I'm an advocate of using sex toys not only for solo masturbation, but with partner(s) as well. Unfortunately, I have learned that making this happen is not always easy. I've seen my...
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