A Sex Ninja’s Gift List Guide

Putting together my holiday wish list for family and friends, I've often struggled to come up with good ideas.  A lot of the things I want are the sort of items that would considerable awkwardness if they popped up under the tree.  But over the years, I've found ways to ask for sex-related items without anyone being the wiser.

Etsy Gift Certificate

Many people...
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Review: Mr. Hankey Toys Lampwick (Medium)

Update: Since the posting of this review, my opinion of Mr. Hankey has shifted dramatically.  When called out for their exploitive "free toy" program, they attacked and insulted sex bloggers on social media.  Their conduct directly contradicted their wish to be more inclusive, as expressed when I took on this review.  To learn more, you can read this post. It's...
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Dear Teenage Me – A Letter to My Past Self

This post was inspired by a random thought from a meeting of Blog Squad Anxiety Support Group in the hotel parking lot at Woodhull.  I was feeling extremely relaxed and happy, having a great time with some amazing people, and I wished I could go back and tell my awkward, anxious teenage self that things are going to get better. Read more

My First (and Second, and Third) Mammogram

This spring, I had my first screening mammogram.  I tweeted about it, and talked to people about it, and while it may not be a "sexy" topic to blog about, I learned it's something a lot of people have questions about.  I also realized that quite a few people I know are scared or intimidated at the idea of having...
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To Vibe or Not To Vibe

I was inspired to write this post by Dangerous Lilly's rant about abstaining from vibrators and the (lack of) effect on her sensitivity.  Lilly shares her perspective on vibe shaming and the myth of vibrator addiction as someone who has always had difficulty reaching orgasm without vibration.  If you haven't read her piece, go do that now...especially if you or your partner struggle with...
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Woodhull SFS16: Bloggers Assemble!

You know that feeling you get when something that you've anticipated for ages is about to happen?  When there's another book due from your favorite author, or a new album from an amazing band and you wonder "Can this possibly live up to what I've imagined it will be?"  That was how I felt heading into the 2016 Sexual Freedom Summit. ...
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On Friends and Benefits (and also Magical Penis Theory)

If I had a dollar for every time I heard someone say that being friends with benefits is a recipe for disaster, I'd be able to buy everything on my sex toy wish list.  And maybe a few years' worth of lube to go with it.  Sex ruins friendships, some people insist.  It complicates everything.  There's always an...
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